social me
with facebook / myspace / even multiply and interest-specific: customvibe, flickr and deviantart = who says im not sociable?
lately i've been toldim not i have not been "sociable" enough - most times by "non-connected" peeps (who ironically don't read or know of my blog *snicker*) - not denying that "blogging" has no direct baring on my non-existent social life, or does it? ... /// READ MORE IF YOU SO PLEASE
i remember a time when i had to dial a landline, to chat someone up or to fix a time with me mates to go outand get sloshed ... then came pagers (where you could ignore and insist that "you'd never received the message must be crossed-lines"), then inevitably came mobile-phones (when you had the straight-up ability to infer the untruth about being late for a date, or whether or not you're "out of the house already" etc) ... to the now, where you are able to be tracked, based on when and where you logged unto; either your blog or online social network (believe you me, i had that happen to me and it was not a pretty sight) ... there never really is much "alone" time nowadays innit? much less escape the world around you ... *heh*
but this isn't JUST about me, Me, ME ... it's about me and YOU, and the world around me, innit?
*heh*
is it my fault that i'd rather blabber-on online with like-minded strangers than talkcock to folks i don't much connect with, in person? is it reeeally a problem if i cannot relate (and visa versa) to the masses that understands not what passions i speak of (and visa versa), or do i really have to go into the deepest realms of my existential-being to be one-with-the-world, to be "accepted"? to be endorsed "safe-for-public-consumption"?... or is it really about the company i keep?
*note#1: im talking about "regular" / traditional social norms+functions, NOT "dating", yeh? :p
*note#2: i very seldom indulge in MSN (but be careful if i do becoz i cant end LOL) and have never ICQ'd in my life ;p
and im not talking about "work"-peeps either = we're there to specifically work on a single project/task, be it in different departments, but still with a fixed task, yeh? but of coz there are different levels we work in (as well). your subordinates might bitch to you, but as "management"; you shouldn't "bitch-down" as well, innit? = hello-frens and acquaintance bond over shared "bitching" (and shared-adversity) anyways, innit? (heh) - and let's not even speak of folks who assume you know not of what they speak of and by-pass you (hence you're at a silent advantage becoz you DO know what they're talking about *snicker*) ... but regardless, "communicating" (a evolutionary by-product of which is "socializing") isn't really as easy as it was decades ago, innit?
face-time was more important then. but now? everybody's strapped for time, least of all myself, who frankly, would rather be blogging (or playing with toys, reading comics - let's face it, it's all about what I want LOL) than waiting within the phantom-zone of "uncomfortable silences" LOL
*random chirping of crickets underneath a starless night-sky*
but one "connection" which im grateful for, is the www - for which the irony of being ON the varied social networks, is not becoz i WANT to, but somehow tis becoz i NEED to be ... virtual or personal, to somehow still stay "connected", if not to network and "socialize" LOL ... and yes, i've never doubted that maybe tis ME that's the primaryproblem hurdle, innit? (not that im in a hurry to finish any race, yeh?) ... anyways, i totally suck on online social network platforms (especially in replies and networking-part LOL) so that's that :p
a realization: i respond. i do not (like to) react.
but i still try ... sometimes. heh.
a ringing-phone irritates me to hell now (even if it's not for me), and receiving emails are only stressful if i don't have time to IMMEDIATELY respond, NOT becoz it demands it, but becoz that's what i'd expect to be treated too ... the road to communication is pathed with ill-expectations, methinks (LOL) and i'd not say to "look in the mirror", bcoz i'd expect it to be shiny-clean before i even think of wiping it down LOL ... and to end this "irony-filled" post, even if i DID meet the folks i communicate with online, i may not be able to further "socialize" face-to-face, innit?
... but then again, that's what "socialize" is, a networking excercise based solely on the ability to interact and connect on a surface/superficial-level, which might (or might not) lead to further and deeper communications and connection between singular or grouped individuals, innit? (my definition thus far :p)
but "surface-interaction" is also fun sometimes lah, becoz expectations are not set (hence would not be disappointed much) and commitment is non-existent ... like having a jolly-good time (but without the sexual flirting) LOL
folks may offer this epiphany: "it's just YOU who cannot or choose not to socialize with others" ... i would not disagree, but perhaps tis becoz i literally cannot afford to (in this period of time), innit? becoz nowadays it's not just about sitting down over a hot cuppa and just talk, innit? ... but that's another post/whine/story for another time, innit? ... meanwhile, do feel free to say *hi* online and i may just say *HI-Back* - *heh*
lately i've been told
i remember a time when i had to dial a landline, to chat someone up or to fix a time with me mates to go out
but this isn't JUST about me, Me, ME ... it's about me and YOU, and the world around me, innit?
*heh*
is it my fault that i'd rather blabber-on online with like-minded strangers than talkcock to folks i don't much connect with, in person? is it reeeally a problem if i cannot relate (and visa versa) to the masses that understands not what passions i speak of (and visa versa), or do i really have to go into the deepest realms of my existential-being to be one-with-the-world, to be "accepted"? to be endorsed "safe-for-public-consumption"?... or is it really about the company i keep?
*note#1: im talking about "regular" / traditional social norms+functions, NOT "dating", yeh? :p
*note#2: i very seldom indulge in MSN (but be careful if i do becoz i cant end LOL) and have never ICQ'd in my life ;p
and im not talking about "work"-peeps either = we're there to specifically work on a single project/task, be it in different departments, but still with a fixed task, yeh? but of coz there are different levels we work in (as well). your subordinates might bitch to you, but as "management"; you shouldn't "bitch-down" as well, innit? = hello-frens and acquaintance bond over shared "bitching" (and shared-adversity) anyways, innit? (heh) - and let's not even speak of folks who assume you know not of what they speak of and by-pass you (hence you're at a silent advantage becoz you DO know what they're talking about *snicker*) ... but regardless, "communicating" (a evolutionary by-product of which is "socializing") isn't really as easy as it was decades ago, innit?
face-time was more important then. but now? everybody's strapped for time, least of all myself, who frankly, would rather be blogging (or playing with toys, reading comics - let's face it, it's all about what I want LOL) than waiting within the phantom-zone of "uncomfortable silences" LOL
but one "connection" which im grateful for, is the www - for which the irony of being ON the varied social networks, is not becoz i WANT to, but somehow tis becoz i NEED to be ... virtual or personal, to somehow still stay "connected", if not to network and "socialize" LOL ... and yes, i've never doubted that maybe tis ME that's the primary
a realization: i respond. i do not (like to) react.
but i still try ... sometimes. heh.
a ringing-phone irritates me to hell now (even if it's not for me), and receiving emails are only stressful if i don't have time to IMMEDIATELY respond, NOT becoz it demands it, but becoz that's what i'd expect to be treated too ... the road to communication is pathed with ill-expectations, methinks (LOL) and i'd not say to "look in the mirror", bcoz i'd expect it to be shiny-clean before i even think of wiping it down LOL ... and to end this "irony-filled" post, even if i DID meet the folks i communicate with online, i may not be able to further "socialize" face-to-face, innit?
... but then again, that's what "socialize" is, a networking excercise based solely on the ability to interact and connect on a surface/superficial-level, which might (or might not) lead to further and deeper communications and connection between singular or grouped individuals, innit? (my definition thus far :p)
but "surface-interaction" is also fun sometimes lah, becoz expectations are not set (hence would not be disappointed much) and commitment is non-existent ... like having a jolly-good time (but without the sexual flirting) LOL
folks may offer this epiphany: "it's just YOU who cannot or choose not to socialize with others" ... i would not disagree, but perhaps tis becoz i literally cannot afford to (in this period of time), innit? becoz nowadays it's not just about sitting down over a hot cuppa and just talk, innit? ... but that's another post/whine/story for another time, innit? ... meanwhile, do feel free to say *hi* online and i may just say *HI-Back* - *heh*
